The Tom Boy
I was never the princess, nor did I ever want to be. I didn't buy dresses, or anything pink, and for a time, I wished I was had been born a boy. It seemed like life was simpler as a boy. They played in the mud, didn't have to wear frilly little dresses. They weren't constantly told to act ladylike in public, and it always seemed like they got the best toys. (I was that unashamed child asking for the boy toys in the McDonald's kids meal)
I grew up in a house of girls. They only male in the house was my father and quite frankly, I became his little boy. From time to time, several of my male cousins would come to live with us, so I got plenty of practice doing what the boys did. Don't get me wrong, I played with Barbies, and dress up, and all the things little girls do. But my favorite games were, cops and robbers, or civil war games. I was especially fond of my medieval knights Lego sets. Which I'm happy to announce Lego has once again, started stocking these classics (I might have to rekindle my Lego flame. If I got any of these for Christmas, I'd be okay with that hint, hint).
Well, I've wandered off topic; So, boys, yes I had wished I was one. Until about high school when it became evident, I wasn't doing myself any favors. Though, I still rebelled against nature a little, I skateboarded and played hockey, and even dressed like a boy. Which gets a little awkward when girls start hitting on you, and your best friends start backing away cause people think we're "Partners." Believe me, this wasn't what I wanted. I was searching for all the perks of being a girl, while being rough and tumble like the boys. Also, trying to flirt during this stage in my life, really sucked! So I didn't.
I was also trying to hide myself physically from the "wrong" kind of attention. Which in my mind meant, I'm getting all the baggy jeans, hoodies, and beanies I could find (also, hard to flirt when you look homeless). I also had my own father commenting on how I didn't seam to be one to use my feminine wiles to get what I wanted from people. As in, I didn't bat my eyes and do all that to get attention (I think they were a tad worried about me, wouldn't you say?).
No, I was a slow mover, I thought before I acted, at least on big life decisions and I probably still do. It wasn't until I turned to my early to mid 20's that I figured out I could, in fact, dress myself up and it was okay. Mind you, the attention I started getting, was quite an eyeopener and I certainty didn't dive into it. I didn't start romantic relationships until I was 24 and I don't regret that decision. I knew I wasn't anywhere near ready to handle relationships in high school. I could barely figure myself out, how do you expect me to figure out boys in the process?? I'm sorry guys, but you're not as easy to figure out as you may like to think.
I gave myself time to grow and figure out that, I'll never have this thing called life fully grasped. So if any of you teenagers are reading this, PAY ATTENTION! You have your whole life in front of you. You'll want to figure out your goals, your carrier path if you have one, the things you like, and your identity. As for me, I like my short hair, being a bit of a Tom Boy, and heavy sarcasm (among other amazing qualities (note sarcasm)). You have all the time in the world for boys later. Figure yourself out and don't be loose, you'll appreciate it later in life, I know I did. I watched enough people around me to figure out, there were a few things I wanted to keep special, later in life. And embrace it, you'll never have all the answers, and when you think you have it all figured out, that's when the carpet gets ripped out from under you. It's going to happen, relax, roll with the punches and get over it!
No one likes a princess, it's okay to be treated like one every once in a while, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't learn to work hard, and better yourself. When you find that special someone, you're going to want a partner, not a one person does it all, relationship. You'll both be better for it in the long run, especially if your relationship is rooted in a Christ.
So, here are my ramblings for the day. I've been very reflective lately and thought I'd share.
Until next time!
I grew up in a house of girls. They only male in the house was my father and quite frankly, I became his little boy. From time to time, several of my male cousins would come to live with us, so I got plenty of practice doing what the boys did. Don't get me wrong, I played with Barbies, and dress up, and all the things little girls do. But my favorite games were, cops and robbers, or civil war games. I was especially fond of my medieval knights Lego sets. Which I'm happy to announce Lego has once again, started stocking these classics (I might have to rekindle my Lego flame. If I got any of these for Christmas, I'd be okay with that hint, hint).
Well, I've wandered off topic; So, boys, yes I had wished I was one. Until about high school when it became evident, I wasn't doing myself any favors. Though, I still rebelled against nature a little, I skateboarded and played hockey, and even dressed like a boy. Which gets a little awkward when girls start hitting on you, and your best friends start backing away cause people think we're "Partners." Believe me, this wasn't what I wanted. I was searching for all the perks of being a girl, while being rough and tumble like the boys. Also, trying to flirt during this stage in my life, really sucked! So I didn't.
I was also trying to hide myself physically from the "wrong" kind of attention. Which in my mind meant, I'm getting all the baggy jeans, hoodies, and beanies I could find (also, hard to flirt when you look homeless). I also had my own father commenting on how I didn't seam to be one to use my feminine wiles to get what I wanted from people. As in, I didn't bat my eyes and do all that to get attention (I think they were a tad worried about me, wouldn't you say?).
No, I was a slow mover, I thought before I acted, at least on big life decisions and I probably still do. It wasn't until I turned to my early to mid 20's that I figured out I could, in fact, dress myself up and it was okay. Mind you, the attention I started getting, was quite an eyeopener and I certainty didn't dive into it. I didn't start romantic relationships until I was 24 and I don't regret that decision. I knew I wasn't anywhere near ready to handle relationships in high school. I could barely figure myself out, how do you expect me to figure out boys in the process?? I'm sorry guys, but you're not as easy to figure out as you may like to think.
I gave myself time to grow and figure out that, I'll never have this thing called life fully grasped. So if any of you teenagers are reading this, PAY ATTENTION! You have your whole life in front of you. You'll want to figure out your goals, your carrier path if you have one, the things you like, and your identity. As for me, I like my short hair, being a bit of a Tom Boy, and heavy sarcasm (among other amazing qualities (note sarcasm)). You have all the time in the world for boys later. Figure yourself out and don't be loose, you'll appreciate it later in life, I know I did. I watched enough people around me to figure out, there were a few things I wanted to keep special, later in life. And embrace it, you'll never have all the answers, and when you think you have it all figured out, that's when the carpet gets ripped out from under you. It's going to happen, relax, roll with the punches and get over it!
No one likes a princess, it's okay to be treated like one every once in a while, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't learn to work hard, and better yourself. When you find that special someone, you're going to want a partner, not a one person does it all, relationship. You'll both be better for it in the long run, especially if your relationship is rooted in a Christ.
So, here are my ramblings for the day. I've been very reflective lately and thought I'd share.
Until next time!
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